A Prayer For My Husband and Myself

“If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me” (Matthew 16:24, NASB)

It is easy as a wife and mother, as someone who often cares too much, to feel like I know all about dying to self. And yet, reading this article from Billy Graham’s website has me convicted. Lately, I’ve been very focused on what my husband isn’t doing for me, what I feel unsure of in our lives, and how I wish he would change. It’s been augmented in terrible ways by everyone in my life who knows what’s going on telling me their own opinions. I’ve even prayed for my husband to change and I all of a sudden realized this morning that I need to pray for him, not against him. And that I need to pray for me.

Yes, I hate feeling like I’m the only one in our family who thinks of the practicalities. But praying that my husband change his dreamer ways instead of appreciating them and praying God sends some other solution is only another death knell for our relationship.

Yes, I worry for our future and I wish he were more stable so I felt more steady in life. But in reality, I do know that the only real safety is in God.

Yes, I get bothered that he doesn’t seem to have a knuckle down and do what needs to be done spirit. But I need to pray that I can see the spirit he does have through God’s eyes, not that God changes him into what I think is right.

I need to die to myself today. To leave behind my selfish worrying, my petty criticisms, and to go to the one who created and planned all of this with them, leaving them at His feet. I need to remember that I’m putting myself in God’s care. For today, I don’t need to worry about this. For today, I need to calm myself and live in God’s loving hands. For today, I need to just remember to rest in Him, and let Him work on me, instead of trying to force my ways onto God and my husband.


I Thank You for the clarity You have given me this morning. I Thank You that you are showing me that I have no control, but You have all of this handled as always. I am so grateful to know I can back float through this day on the waters of Your love and Your reassurance. I Thank You that even though I am sometimes blind to it, You have made Stephen for Your purposes and everything about him is by Your design. Help us as we strive to build a life together, as we try to change together in the ways that You call us to change, not in the ways that we are determined are best. Remove the scales from our eyes, Lord, and let us see each other through Your vision. Let us be the best parents we can be for our child, help us to show her how to accept criticism and love the criticizers because Your word tells us that the wise accept rebukes and listen well to criticism. Lord, Please bring peace to our household and show us the way forward on Your path, not our own.

In Jesus Name, Amen

A Prayer To Be More Like Job And Praise Him In The Silence

Things seem extra hard these days for so many people I know, especially Christians. I used to hear people say things like this and feel like they were just jaded and overly dramatic. I feel like maybe it’s just a moment I hadn’t experienced yet. One where the scales have fallen from my eyes and I’m seeing that there really are times when all around you, the Devil does his work, and all around you, good people suffer.

I don’t think this is something that necessarily indicates the end of the world or an imminent second coming as some people might think, I think it mostly is just something that indicates a change in how we see the world as our Faith works in us.

I saw a Corrie Ten Boom quote today and it said “If you look at the world, you’ll be distressed; If you look within, you’ll be depressed; If you look to God, you’ll be at rest.”

This is what I need to remember when I look to much at the world. Scales or no, and my theory may be wrong as it’s just a thought I had, but this is what I need to remember.

God takes care of us. He has provided us everything here on this earth to take care of ourselves, even if we feel we’re down to nothing left but ourselves and Jesus, that will be enough because of how our Big Awesome God created and designed this world.

Job: I was naked, with nothing, when I came from my mother’s womb;
        and naked, with nothing, I will return to the earth.
    The Eternal has given, and He has taken away.
        May the name of the Eternal One be blessed.
Job 1:21 The Voice

I love this verse. Most of us cannot imagine how we would stand and praise our Lord, blessing his name in the face of the knowledge that we were a prosperous person with all we could have wanted in life and within the span of one day it was all wiped out. And we so often here today think that our misfortunes are God’s fault, blaming Him when we should be looking to His plan with faith, and in Job’s case, this actually was something sent to him by God, a deliberate experiment. And Job praises His name.

Oh if I could have a heart like Job.

Lord, please, give me a heart like Job. I have been through trials and I have cursed You and asked You why in terror and in pain, when I should have been putting those feelings aside and realizing that You are always in charge of my care. Lord, I am so grateful that while I go through what I’m going through now, I can take the time to praise Your name. Lord, I adore Your ways, even when I don’t understand them, because I know they lead to what is best for me. Please, show me how to be still in the storms of life and wait on Your timing and Your leading. Help me to know when I should simply sit and wait for You, Praising You in the Silence! Amen

A Prayer For Those Who Feel Alone and Buried By Strife

Sometimes life is much harder than you want it to be. Sometimes things go wrong every day for weeks and things feel like they’re falling apart around you. Sometimes people you thought were to be counted on for support fail you. Sometimes it feels like everyone has something negative to say about you or to you, including family and friends. Sometimes all of this is true, or partly true, and you just have to remember that even though there are times like this, there are also golden beautiful times. For me, it is time to realize that even if the people you expect to be there for you aren’t doing that right now, God always sends helpers, always sends supporters, always is there for support himself. Those were the times He carried me.

The Lord God is my strength and my song. Isaiah 12:2

Job’s Former Blessings
1And Job again took up his discourse and said,2“Oh that I were as in months gone by, As in the days when God watched over me;… Job 29:1-2


Sometimes it is so easy to feel we aren’t being watched over. The valleys in our lives can seem so deep to us that we cannot even view the mountain tops coming or going. Sometimes we are nothing but small, aching, curled up heaps of wondering why you’ve left us behind. But You never do. You hold us and care for us each. Lord, remind those of us who are overwhelmed and feeling alone tonight that You are here. You are for us. You care for us as You do the sparrows. You count each tear a silent prayer as You capture them in Your jar and record them in Your book. I thank You for Your generous faithfulness toward us. I thank You that I know even when others can’t see my worth, even when I feel it is hard to see my own, You call me your own, You call me redeemed, and I can rest in Your plan.


A Prayer To Stop Destructive Thinking

Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be you transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
1 Corinthians 3:16 Know you not that you are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?
1 Corinthians 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple you are.
1 Corinthians 6:20 For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
Revelation 9:6 And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it; and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them.
So often, much too often, it is easy to find one’s self feeling at the end of some imaginary rope, clinging to any sliver of hope and waiting for rescue.
I’ve had a discussion lately with someone very dear to me about these kinds of feelings and was surprised at the depth and breadth of them in his life.
In life, so many things can pile up on us and help us to feel unhappy. So many things, if we focus on them, can lead to us thinking that this world is worth nothing and we are worth nothing in it.
Today, I’d like to pray that we forget that kind of destructive thinking.
Help me to remember to look at the things to be grateful for in life. Remind me to seek Your purposes for me and to ignore the world’s standards of “success”. My true success will come when You are satisfied with me, when I am really following You and Your plan for my life. Help me to be better able to know where You are guiding me. Allow me to understand that I am merely Your vessel here, that I have been put here to honor and serve Your other creations on this earth.
When I feel unworthy, Lord, remind me that You give me worth with Your love. When I feel I can’t go on, and I don’t have the skills, please show me that You are waiting for me to lean on Your strength instead.
Help me to know, Lord, that Your mercies are fresh each morning and I need only make it through one more night.
Lord, remind me I am Your beloved.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen

A Prayer To Stop Keeping Score

Hebrews 6:10 For God is not unjust so as to overlook your work and the love that you have shown for his name in serving the saints, as you still do.

I have found myself having trouble with keeping a grateful heart lately and it is because I find it far too easy to keep score. I come home tired after work, after having my daughter with me all day and waking with her in the night, after dressing and feeding and diapering her while I do my other job, then coming home to more chores to do and things to catch up on… and there I am doing it again. I make lists in my head that measure what I’ve done against my husband, especially since he is off work, and it is all just complete and useless complaining.

There is nothing in life that is fair. There is toil in every day because God has said there would be. And even if all of my work was taken from me, I’d only have more psychological trouble: the trouble of feeling useless and as if I weren’t contributing.

I take value from taking care of my family. I take pride in doing the work I do. Why then does my contrary nature try to tell me I deserve more than that?

I do not. I deserve nothing and the Lord gives me everything. My family is so well provided for, my life is so easy and simple, really. I am finding myself ungrateful and with a hurting heart, not because I do not get enough help and fairness, but because I do not think as I should.

And so today I pray:

Lord, Help me to stop scorekeeping and offering blame. It only causes resentments where there should be none. Show me what to do to cultivate a grateful heart, and the mind of one who is happy to serve. Aid me as I seek a a better way to live and love and to follow Your Son’s examples.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

A Prayer For Protection And Wisdom When Friends Take Advantage

Proverbs 10:9 ESV

Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.

1 Timothy 5:8 ESV

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Psalm 91:1-16 ESV

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that flies by day, …

Galatians 1:10 ESV

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

Lord, so often we get caught up in relationships with people that we aren’t quite sure about. And there are other people in this world who have talents to fool us, to take advantage of us, to be detrimental to our lives. I pray tonight, Lord, in Thanks that you have given us protection from these people. I pray in gratefulness that I need not worry over seeing these people close to my family, because You are closer. I am so glad, Lord, that I can rest in the safety You’ve made for us. I am so thankful that You have provided for us so many good and true friends who do not seek to cause us trouble and stumbling. Instead of us being upset or worried by our friends who are not always dealing with us perfectly, allow us to be examples to them as long as they are in our lives of what living in Your love and having forgiveness is like. Lord, we know that You do not stand for people taking advantage of each other, we know that You are not pleased by selfishness and self centered behavior, and we Thank You that You have shown us a better way to be. Help us remember to forgive time and again, but to rest also in Your protection.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

A Prayer For Our Mothers

Isaiah 66:13 As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.

Isn’t it interesting that in this verse, the prophet uses a Mother as the example of Godliness? God will comfort us as our mothers do. In many ways a parent’s love is often our greatest example of a Godly type of love here on earth. A mother can love her child beyond all measure, above all common sense, through any thing that might kill another kind of love. She can forgive her child over and over and over again, with open arms. And so, we can easily imagine that God might have made Mothers an example of His kind of love.


We see our Mothers as perfect, we see them through the eyes of Your love, Lord. As children we see them as examples of beauty and love, of nurturing and warmth. Lord, sometimes as we get older we see our parents, our Mothers in ways we would never have expected. They become real people to us, and we begin to worry for them, to fret over them, or even to have to take care of them as they once took care of us. Today, Lord, especially, we thank You for the gift of a Mother. For someone who goes above and beyond all common sense or usual human bounds to birth and nurture another person through this life. Thank You, Lord, that You have blessed so many children with Mothers who will love them beyond all sense and measure, who can be examples of Your love here in this world.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen.